What happens when you realise your path is entrepreneurship rather than employment? Lindsay takes up the challenge and shares an account of her journey as it unfolds…
Things are going well. I have positive noises around me – again no firm contracts but lots of warm hopefuls. Eight people are actively looking for Mirror Mirror for their contacts, and eight companies are giving me positive signals. That takes me back to making sure my current cherished FIRST client is going well. It is actually, but in explaining Mirror Mirror to people and seeing it come to life, I found myself pondering how little effort it can take for people to get aligned and how valuable that alignment is.
If ‘alignment’ is defined as a current reality that is shared between two or more people, then at one end of the spectrum, you have hatred and warring forever. At the other, when the conditions are right, when the right words are said in the right way and in the right setting, all of the fighting can be set free. Immediately. Effortlessly.
- “I disagreed with you because actually, I was scared of what might happen if we went ahead.”
- “I understand how you feel, and you’ve got a right to feel that way – I was just looking at the situation differently. You see I’ve had trouble with an issue like this in the past.”
Yet when we step a tinsey bit out of our comfort zones to open up and find the common ground, we can find these immediate, effortless results. Hearing the views of others is quick and easy when we are respectful and open, even when there is baggage in the relationship.
Seeing things in different ways is effortless, when new inputs are shared in the right way, no matter how long previous views have been held.
Truly sharing takes respect, openness, compassion and curiosity. After all, all people want is to be loved and understood. And in my view, it takes one person to model that – ideally the leader in the room – and it’s doesn’t take long for people to remember how to behave like that for themselves.
People who are not aligned can feel confused, powerless, unsafe, numb, angry, frustrated, unheard, and flat.
People who are aligned can feel more excited, prepared, hopeful, connected, inspired, useful, and wanted.
Good old dialogue. Is there anything else that makes so much difference for such little time and effort? As you can see, I’m a believer : ) and I hope you are too.
Mirror Mirror allows teams to develop a shared picture of ‘where they are now’ so they have the clarity, alignment, and momentum needed to progress to ‘where they want to go next’. www.mirrormirrorhub.com
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