Monthly Archives: August 2016

If I Were A Boy: I KnowWhen I Deserve A Raise And I Will Ask For It!


According to Carnegie Mellon University economics professor Linda Babcock, co-author of “Women Don’t Ask”, men are four times more likely than women to ask for a raise.

When women do ask, they typically request 30% less than men do. In a study of 78 masters students, she also found that just 12.5% of women negotiated for their starting salary, versus 52% of men.

Despite attempts to debunk the wage gap statistic, women only earn 77% of what men earn for the same job or amount of work. At this rate, it could take a full 45 years before the wage gap disappears.

Women are paying a high price for our stereotypes about how men and women should behave.

If I were a boy I was expected to be confident, opinionated and assertive. I would ask for what I deserve!

Anja Uitdehaag


Lindsay’s In Business: Hanging in the Universe

by Lindsay Uittenbogaard

All sorts of ideas, old and new came up during that phase of excitement and discomfort:

What about an app that provides more detailed user ratings on local services than the usual ‘5 stars’, so that people wanting a prompt and tidy DIY guy (rather than the cheapest one), or a reflexology-based pedicure (rather than just great nails) can find exactly what they’re looking for?

What about helping Line Managers with team communications: a notorious requirement coming out of most employee surveys that never quite gets the attention it needs?

What about an art website with pre-set titles based on feelings, like frustration, excitement, anger? Artists could upload works created for those titles; they could be shared on social media with people liking the ones they most identify with, then judged, sold, merchandised…?

What about a home PA by-the-hour service? Imagine all those busy, dual income parents who would love to get a bit of help with running errands, searching for holidays, sitters for houses/pets/children, even getting presents for nieces and nephews – they’d want to call just a single number. Continue reading


Boss compliments Femsy with her excellent presentation at the management meeting. She responds by saying: “I really did not do much at all. Billy gave me the numbers and Betsy did most of the analysis”.

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Believe In The Power Of The Reality You Want

by Anja Uitdehaag

“Everything is energy and that is all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It cannot be no other way. This is not philosophy, this is physics.” – Albert Einstein

We are what we tell ourselves we are. When we are talking to ourselves, we are talking to our subconscious mind. If I continuously tell myself I am stupid, unworthy, and ugly, then I am placing these ideas into my subconscious and making it believe these ideas are true. They become a confirmation. Imagine what happens if I focus my subconscious mind on positive outcomes? I can shape my own destiny and achieve marvelous success and happiness… This is called “autosuggestion”. Continue reading

Me? ….. A Brand?

by Anja Uitdehaag

Personal branding was popularized by an article by Tom Peters first published in Fast Company Magazine (“A Brand Called You”) over 10 years ago. He starts out the article by writing, “Regardless of age, regardless of position, regardless of the business we happen to be in, all of us need to understand the importance of branding. We are CEOs of our own companies: Me Inc. To be in business today, our most important job is to be head marketer for the brand called You.” Continue reading

Deborah A. Bailey, “Think Like an Entrepreneur: Transforming Your Career and Taking Charge of Your Life”





Reviewed by Femflection

Deborah A. Bailey is a sought after expert to discuss entrepreneurial and workplace issues. After over twenty years in the corporate world, Deborah graduated from Coach U and transitioned into entrepreneurship. She’s the author of of several novels and non-fiction books, in addition to a short story collection, a speaker and the host of “Women Entrepreneurs – The Secrets of Success,” an internet radio talk show where she provides candid discussions with today’s top entrepreneurs, authors and industry experts. Continue reading


Lately some (small) things went wrong at work. It upsets Femsy and she has difficulty overcoming these mistakes.

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The “Always On” Workplace Culture

Spongebob – Squarepants

Today’s ‘always on’ workplace culture can take a heavy toll on us. Many of us are expected to be on call 24/7 to respond to any query. We are under constant pressure and overloaded with nonstop streams of information. We are simply working more, and harder, rather than smarter.

All of this has a major impact on our well-being. Switching off and resting is a key means of managing stress whatever your profession. However, it’s not always a simple matter of pushing the “off” button.

It is vital that leaders:

  • lead by example,
  • signal what realistic work expectations are,
  • support staff who are showing signs of burn out and
  • create a culture that actively helps people manage their time effectively.

It won’t happen bottom up; too many employees are frightened to set limits for themselves.

Anja Uitdehaag

Lindsay’s In Business: Running

by Lindsay Uittenbogaard

I’d run my own business before.  In fact, it was the first thing I did when I finished University. I started the UK’s first city-to-city car pool agency for students in 1992.  Crazy actually.  No concept awareness, no funding, no experience, no internet (but we did get a fax machine – woo!) I loved the novelty and the challenge of it. But after 4 years, 17,000 members, EU funding, 7 voluntary staff and sponsorship from Vauxhall Motors – at 10 pounds membership a year, it just wasn’t viable. I was exhausted and oh so disappointed.

After that, I went from small-business marketing in Australia, to a general management position in Scotland, and then someone said, “Hey, I need someone for a communications consultancy job in the Netherlands and you could be that person!” So off I went to start work at Shell in 2001. As I set out on what was to be a fascinating whole new life, I started discovering what large organizations were really about. Continue reading

Pat Heim, Tammy Hughes and Susan K. Golant, “In the Company of Women: Indirect Aggression Among Women: Why We Hurt Each Other and How to Stop”






Reviewed by Femflection

Research on women’s workplace issues shows that women have failed to support and improve each other’s workplace performance. Pat Heim and Susan Murphy, corporate consultants on gender issues, address this failure in their book  “In the Company of Women: Turning Workplace Conflict Into Powerful Alliances.” Continue reading