Tag Archives: Human Relations

Situation 29: ROMANCE

Betsy gets romantically involved with someone at work. Billy advises her to handle the situation in a highly professional manner.

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The Key To Our Success

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From the moment we are born we develop both our motives and values.  Motives are deep-seated non-conscious desires and are the things that we enjoy doing.  Values develop through social conditioning – home, school, religion, work, friends etc. Values are what we feel are important; the things we should do.

David McClelland’s theory on human motivation states that in normal, healthy human beings there are 3 social motives and values that describe the widest range of behaviors:

  • achievement,
  • affiliation and
  • power.

Achievement is a concern for achieving a standard of excellence that the individual sets for him/herself.  Often people with a dominant achievement motive strive for mastery and expertise in their chosen field.

Affiliation is concerned with having positive relationships for the sake of the relationship (and not in service of something else).  Individuals with a dominant affiliation motive invest in a few, deep relationships and often have strong reactions towards others – they are clear whom they like and dislike.  They prefer environments that are convivial and foster friendship.

The power motive is a concern to have influence and impact on others.  People with a dominant power motive like to have an audience and visibility.  They are often good networkers.

There is no ‘right’ motive profile that determines success; we are all different.

The key to our success lies in understanding what drives our behavior in various situations; this is a combination of our motives and our values (what we believe is important at the time) and the conditions that we find ourselves in.

Defining personal success is a journey of self-discovery; you need to figure out what is your true purpose, what you are passionate about, what you enjoy and find ways at work to satisfy that need. You must to listen to your inner voice rather than be influenced by others so that you can lead a fulfilling life and not feel regret when you retire because you did not follow your heart.

Anja Uitdehaag

Situation 25: HARD WORK VERSUS ACCOMPLISHMENTS

Work is tough. Femsy did not get her latest proposal approved in the MT, and she is making long hours.

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Professionalism and The Golden Rule

by River Ho Rathore

A week back, I had the pleasure of catching up with one of my friends who used to be one of the most demanding bosses I have had the privilege of working with. While giving each other personal updates, our discussion – as it always does – turned into reminiscing about the demanding yet fun environment that we had co-created with our entire employee base.

It was a fun environment, where the Power Distance Index (“PDI”, referencing Geert Hofstede) was very low across the organization, especially in the context of an emerging Asian operation market. In spite of the cordial relationships, everyone was crystal clear about the high performance standards and focused on bringing value to all stakeholders, especially the customers. Continue reading

Situation 23: DISENGAGED

After the career discussion with Mansy, Mian is disengaged, demotivated and underperforming. This affects team performance and makes her the focus of office gossip.

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Acting Like A Man In The Workplace

by Anja Uitdehaag

“I don’t mind living in a man’s world as long as I can be a woman in it.” – Marilyn Monroe

Women leaders need to learn to manage without injecting gender into it. We’re all different! Being different from men (or other women) isn’t something to change or hide. Get over the idea that men and women are complete opposites, that we can never be similar.

There are times in the business world when we (and I mean: men and women) should be competitive or confrontational and there are times when we should seek compromise, cooperation and listen to our emotions. Most situations call for a blend of all of the above and most men and women have the ability to be all of these things. Continue reading

Situation 22: ACCEPTING COMPLIMENTS

Boss compliments Femsy with her excellent presentation at the management meeting. She responds by saying: “I really did not do much at all. Billy gave me the numbers and Betsy did most of the analysis”.

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Pat Heim, Tammy Hughes and Susan K. Golant, “In the Company of Women: Indirect Aggression Among Women: Why We Hurt Each Other and How to Stop”

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Reviewed by Femflection

Research on women’s workplace issues shows that women have failed to support and improve each other’s workplace performance. Pat Heim and Susan Murphy, corporate consultants on gender issues, address this failure in their book  “In the Company of Women: Turning Workplace Conflict Into Powerful Alliances.” Continue reading

Situation 20: CONFIDENTIAL INFORMATION

Femsy gets into trust issues because of sharing information, which was supposed to be kept confidential.

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Workplace Bullying

by Anja Uitdehaag

Let’s have a look at some – shocking! – statistics:

According to a 2010 online poll by the Workplace Bullying Institute (WBI), a Washington state think Tank, workplace bullying

  • affects more than 1/3 of employees;
  • 56% of employees reported that bullying came from bosses;
  • 33% said bullying came from coworkers;
  • 11% said bullying came from the bottom up, employees to their superiors;
  • 69% of bullies are male, and 57% of the time they have female targets;
  • 31% of bullies are female, and 68% of the time they have female targets;
  • Early results from an online WBI survey revealed 87% of employers reacted by denying, defending, discounting or rationalizing the abuse.

As the above statistics show, workplace bullying is happening everywhere. Continue reading