So I’m finally sitting in a meeting room with my boss. I hadn’t been able to talk with her for a few weeks now (which was getting pretty frustrating), so what I wanted to get out of the discussion had been changing quite a bit. She waits for me to take the lead. I decide to take a meta-level approach.
“I’m glad we have chance to talk. It feels like we’ve been… kind of … at odds with each other,” I confessed. “Maybe it’s me – I’m so keen to see progress and push forward in a ‘dynamic’ way that when the brakes go on, it’s difficult to understand. Then, at the same time, it seems you’re holding things back to prioritise ‘excellence’ in our work. Should we be rethinking those values together?” Continue reading →
Last month I visited the Annual European Convention of doTerra in Prague.
doTerra is one of the largest Essential Oil companies in the World.
Essential Oils support your physical health system as well as your emotional sense of well being. All naturally without negative side affects. Essential oils help your body to regain its own homeostase, in other words, its own balance. So back to nature!
Just yesterday, I came across a Harvard Business Review article titled “Great Leaders Embrace Office Politics”. Written by Michael Wenderoth, the article describes how, in the real world, our success is determined less by merit and more by perceptions and political skills. Michael’s writing is pragmatic and draws insights from top executives’ actual experiences, even his own. It also reminded me of the many warnings I have received about playing the office politics game. “It is there in every office. You cannot eliminate it, so you might as well play it,” a number of colleagues, relatives and friends have told me so over the years. Continue reading →
Femsy shares the office with Mansy, which is not easy for her. Mansy is often not greeting her in the morning, is not or hardly acknowledging her presence in the office, talks too loud on the telephone and is distracting Femsy from concentrating on her job by asking questions or making comments/jokes whenever it suits him.
When something upsetting happens at work, a woman is more likely to take it personally than her male counterpart.
Most advice given for handling such a situation would be “It’s just business, don’t take it personally.”
For a long time this kind of advice used to make me even angrier. Not to take things personally? It was personal!
Today? – Though I’m far from being fully detached, I’ve come a long way compared to where I once was.
There’s nothing like growing up in a large competitive family and a global career in a male dominated environment to teach you how to not take things personally.
When you take things personally you give others more power over you than they ever should be allowed to have. You are allowing someone to question what you feel, believe and who you are. It keeps you tied to someone else and can even make you feel like a victim.
The biggest benefits of not taking things personally are self-awareness, self worth and clarity.
Knowing and truly feeling that only you can dictate whether or not you’re on track or whether or not you’re successful is a reward in and of it self.
As Eleanor Roosevelt said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.”