When something upsetting happens at work, a woman is more likely to take it personally than her male counterpart.
Most advice given for handling such a situation would be “It’s just business, don’t take it personally.”
For a long time this kind of advice used to make me even angrier. Not to take things personally? It was personal!
Today? – Though I’m far from being fully detached, I’ve come a long way compared to where I once was.
There’s nothing like growing up in a large competitive family and a global career in a male dominated environment to teach you how to not take things personally.
When you take things personally you give others more power over you than they ever should be allowed to have. You are allowing someone to question what you feel, believe and who you are. It keeps you tied to someone else and can even make you feel like a victim.
The biggest benefits of not taking things personally are self-awareness, self worth and clarity.
Knowing and truly feeling that only you can dictate whether or not you’re on track or whether or not you’re successful is a reward in and of it self.
As Eleanor Roosevelt said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.”