Monthly Archives: December 2016



Live your own life!

 “You were put on this earth to achieve your greatest self, to live out your purpose, and to do it courageously.” – Steve Maraboli

365 New Days – 365 New Chances.

What the New Year brings to you will depend a great deal on what you bring to the New Year.

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Mirror Mirror is a structured way of capturing how people perceive their team situation and understanding the diversities that exist between them, through interviews and assessments. The combined picture shows where the team is aligned and misaligned, where the issues and gaps are, and there may be new possibilities and ways to use the team’s diversity.

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During the weekly team meeting, work progress of a special project is being discussed. Billy is unable to complete his part of the project due to vacation. Femsy – not happy – replies “Well let me handle it”. Boss is making clear that Femsyis not managing her team; she is “mothering” the team.

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A great leader:

  • Sets clear expectations of what she wants from her team members both in their behaviours and required outcomes;
  • Understands the unique capabilities of her team and works with them to set goals and targets that make the best use of their talents;
  • Keeps on top of project deliveries and ensures that key milestones are met. She asks questions to uncover potential (or actual) difficulties and works to remove obstacles.

How to best handle the situation:

Sit down with your team member to understand the specific problem. Break down the tasks into its components and determine what can be achieved within the required timescale. Agree how the outstanding work will be completed and make sure that your team member is still held accountable for full delivery even if he/she cannot perform the work him/herself.

Reflect on how you lead your team. If you have a tendency to take care of your team and put their personal situation ahead of the tasks that they need to perform, you will not get the desired performance and achieve results. Change your style to be more authoritative. Set out clear goals with your rationale for why these are important. Give individuals personal accountability for delivery and give them balanced feedback on how they are doing.

 Learning suggestions:

  • Craft a clear and compelling strategy for what you need to achieve for each project. Share this with your team and solicit their feedback so that you can answer any questions and concerns they might have. Test their level of understanding and commitment;
  • Make notes about each of your team members. What are their strengths and limitations? What activities do they excel at? What are they passionate about? Try to establish goals and tasks that make the most of their unique talents;
  • Create a project plan that outlines the key tasks and milestones, the person responsible for delivery and the deadline for completion. Share this with your project team. Hold regular project meetings where you discuss progress and identify potential problems. Take actions early to ensure that your project stays on track;


  • Take a visible role, such as Chair in an important meeting, or project leader of a task, where you have to shape and lead a discussion and draw out conclusions and decisions.

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We welcome your thoughts, experiences and comments on how you would deal with such a situation.

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Lindsay’s In Business: part 11: It’s alive!

by Lindsay Uittenbogaard

What happens when you realise your path is entrepreneurship rather than employment? Lindsay takes up the challenge and shares an account of her journey as it unfolds…(you can find previous parts of Lindsay’s story here: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4, Part 5, Part 6, Part 7, Part 8, Part 9, Part 10.)

The Mirror Mirror concept had started out in July out as 3 slides before growing into a bigger slide pack, and then into an actual Descriptive Pack, the one we circulated to our Alpha expert test group for comment some time ago (much like a new born being passed around to some doctors for examination). It had survived their tests.

To recap from the last blog: Mirror Mirror is a structured way of capturing how people in teams perceive the internal and external context in which their team operates, including how each team member’s values and preferences tend to shape their perceptions and the way they respond. The combined data is reflected to the team in one whole picture, providing powerful insights that lead to improved engagement, teamwork and business unit performance.

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Learning To Learn About Diversity

by Anja Uitdehaag

“Diversity isn’t just sound social policy – diversity is the engine of invention. It generates creativity that enriches the world.” – Justin Trudeau

I very much like the way the University of Maryland defines “diversity”:

“Diversity is “otherness”, or those human qualities that are different from our own and outside the groups to which we belong, yet are present in other individuals and groups.”

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by Anja Uitdehaag

“The more you know yourself, the more patience you have for what you see in others.” – Erikson

 It is very easy to confuse “What we do” with “who we are”.

When I was younger, I associated job title and fitting into a group with my self-worth. I didn’t realise how much I drew upon my work as the source of my identity. I had spent so much of my life working toward what I thought were my important life goals only to find out that this was not the case.

I ended up thinking ‘There must be more to life, or to me than this’?

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Moving to another country: get ready to be surprised – Part 2


by Nataliya Semenova

Two years I was offered an interesting job opportunity abroad. I decided to go for it, thus I relocated from Moscow to Amsterdam.

It turned my world upside down!

Changing the place of living (even if you move from one apartment to another in the same town) and changing jobs are on top of the scale among the most stressful events in one’s life. Even when all these changes are positive and are for the best, you go through a lot of stress. I know this is normal but nevertheless it is a good reminder during difficult times.

In part one of my article I focused on the practical sides of moving to a new country. Now I will take you through the emotional challenges you might face on your exciting journey: Continue reading