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Does Gender Matter When it Comes to Your Mentor?

IMG_0039Girls are often raised to believe that it’s not polite to speak about your-self. So many women wait to be recognized and then are frustrated when they aren’t.

With the guidance of a trusted mentor, women can learn to overcome the internal and external factors that hold them back, and go on to successfully grow in their careers.

One of the most basic questions in the mentor-selection process is whether to be mentored by a man or a woman. When it comes to mentoring women, should the gender of mentor candidates be a consideration? The answer is not straightforward. While some experts and executives believe male mentors can offer the best resources to women, others feel that female mentors can offer better understanding of specific issues that mentees need to know. Still others feel that gender should not be a deciding factor for mentorship.

The bottom line?

Think about your goals for a mentoring relationship. If your company’s management structure is male-dominated and you need access to the “boy’s club,” a male mentor might make more sense, at least initially. But if you’re hoping to be advised by someone who has gone before you in your shoes and experienced similar challenges firsthand, you might prefer a female mentor.

Through a female or male mentor, you will have access to circles previously closed to you – you’ll receive firsthand know-how, tailored to your specific needs and your current position – and you’ll gain recognition in the places where decisions are made.

Choose someone who is more experienced in your field, someone who you respect professionally, find inspiring and look forward to spending time with. He/she should energize you.

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It is Great to Know You don’t Know ….

IMG_0044Admitting you don’t know something could be seen as a sign of weakness. What do you do?

First of all relax.

Don’t stress about it.

You don’t come into the job knowing all there is to know about everything.

No matter what is your day to day work, it’s absolutely normal not to know everything. You’ll keep your credibility by saying, “I don’t know, but I’ll check for the answer”, than trying to answers with information you aren’t sure.


You probably know those people who are sure they know everything because they think they’ve seen it all and done it all. They’ve stopped learning.

They believe they’ve accumulated enough knowledge. They are afraid of learning something new because that causes them to call into question the absolute validity of their experiences and knowledge.

However, in todays’ fast changing world it is impossible to know everything.

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Every single one of us needs meaning!

IMG_0045The rock-pebble-sand-water-in-a-jar story of Dr. Stephen R. Covey (The seven habits of highly effective people) illustrates how a lack of planning can derail your life in significant ways.

The rocks represent the important things in your life such as your family, children, friends, work, or whatever you value in your life. The pebbles, sand, and water represent the less important yet necessary things you do on a regular basis such as commuting to work, running errands, answering emails, shopping, and so on.

If you do not plan your life, there’s a big chance that you will fail to put in all the big rocks in the jar of your life before everything else, so you will not be able to fit them all in. You will find in the end that your life, full as it is of endless tasks and activities, is empty because you failed to fit in important parts of it.

How much time do you spend thinking about the things you’re going to do one day? Do you initiate things in your life or do you just react? Do you feel that life is slipping by quicker than you would like? Have you ever experienced that restless, anxious feeling and weren’t sure what to do about it?

Planning your life helps achieve your purpose. It doesn’t really matter what it is, as long as it is something you want. Planning your life is all about finding out who you are as a person, what makes you tick, what your values are and what deeply satisfies your soul.

Of course there will be many things beyond us in life. Mapping out your future does not mean that things will happen this way. I am 100% sure that there is no chance that my life will turn out exactly the way I envision it to. And that is OK: the beauty of life is in the unexpected and unplanned events.

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Lindsay’s In Business: PART 41: Is this TURNAROUND?


What happens when you realise your path is entrepreneurship rather than employment? Lindsay takes up the challenge and shares an account of her journey as it unfolds…

And then – all at once, an unrelated series of pick-me-ups came in!! Is this it? Is this the start of a turnaround? Continue reading

We the women, for the women


by River Ho

This week, most parts of the world celebrate the advancement of women through the International Women’s Day (IWD) on March 8. IWD’s 2017 theme, #BeBoldforChange, brings to mind how far women have come from the aughts when women were not considered serious players in the society. Indeed, so much have changed. But so much are yet to be done in empowering women, giving them the status they deserve as equal contributors to social progress and economic growth, rightfully compensating them for their efforts, and giving them a place in the boardroom.

In our quest for equity, we the women have the biggest role to play in making this change happen. Every moment, our mindsets, behaviors and words impact the way women are thought of and treated. So, in the spirit of being bold for women, I asked some of my bold friends, who hail from different backgrounds and who all have successfully overcome personal and professional obstacles, what they would do or continue doing to advance the interests of women in their own circles.

Here are what they have to say:

Phnom Penh

Sambath Lao
Commercial and Communications Officer, Embassy of Sweden
Phnom Penh, Cambodia

“I will continue encouraging women to make decisions for themselves, whether it’s for their career, love, family or future plans, as well as when participating in politics. I will continue telling them to do what’s good for them, and not what society and others expect them to do.”


Doris Jimenez
PR Consultant, Belo Medical Group
Manila, Philippines

“I encourage and support women in the workforce. In my PR practice, I’ve continuously advocated for gender parity across all levels in business and the society.”

Jo Hazel

Jo Hazel
Bograd Asia Data Science and Analytics Manager, Monsanto

“I represent/champion women in science, and encourage the same by being a mentor to newer/younger women in science. I am also a spokesperson and role model as I encourage more girls in school to choose careers in science and engineering.”

Dr. Humaira Islam

Dr. Humaira Islam
Consultant Sonologist, Anwar Khan Modern Medical College Hospital
Dhaka, Bangladesh

“As a doctor, I do my best to give my women patients sound medical care and advice to keep them in good morals.”

Ny Phanthaboun

Ny Phanthaboun
Consultant, Asian Development Bank / Business Owner
Vientiane, Laos

“I encourage women to value themselves, to be ready to follow their dreams, and to think positively but wisely!”

Jeanette Mendoza

Jeanette Mendoza
Training and Quality Assurance Manager, Le Meridien Hotel
Dubai, United Arab Emirates

“I am attending Meditation and Yoga classes for my physical, mental and spiritual wellbeing as a woman, and am encouraging all of my female friends to do the same.”

Shalu Panwar

Shalu Panwar
Assistant Manager – HR, Vasundhara Hospital and Fertility Research Center
Jodhpur, India

“I strongly feel that every woman has her own hidden strength. “Know your strengths, Own your strengths”. Our hospital is a complete mother and child care centre, with almost 80% of employees being females from different backgrounds. We motivate them to express their best in life and work, and be able to identify and channel their unique strengths. As women, we value ourselves and step up to take the lead.”


Matriarchy revisited.


By: Francine van Dam

The other day, I was asked to perform at the opening of an exhibition of two male artists from Curacao. I packed my cuatro ( small Venezuelan guitar) and prepared some old songs in Papiamento ( the Creole language from there).

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To Hope Et. Al.

by River Ho Rathore

The Voice always makes me tear up. Yes, that reality TV shows that aspires to discover the newest talented voices, and which has already been franchised across various countries. Every week, I turn on the TV just in time for The Voice’s broadcast, eager not only to listen to mind-blowing voices, but more intently to listen to contestants’ stories of hope, passion, persistence and determination. Continue reading

Believe In The Power Of The Reality You Want

by Anja Uitdehaag

“Everything is energy and that is all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It cannot be no other way. This is not philosophy, this is physics.” – Albert Einstein

We are what we tell ourselves we are. When we are talking to ourselves, we are talking to our subconscious mind. If I continuously tell myself I am stupid, unworthy, and ugly, then I am placing these ideas into my subconscious and making it believe these ideas are true. They become a confirmation. Imagine what happens if I focus my subconscious mind on positive outcomes? I can shape my own destiny and achieve marvelous success and happiness… This is called “autosuggestion”. Continue reading

Mind and Heart Expect Possibilities

by Romy Coomans

As I’m asked to write this article I’m just experiencing the law of Murphy first hand. The people who came to see my car didn’t take it, I got some cancellations on gigs I presumed where set, I’m broke and the sandwich I ordered is not the one I got…

I’m annoyed, irritated, like anyone else would be.

So now there are three things I can do:

  1. I can sit back and talk myself into believing I am doomed to fail;
  2. I can get up and try to do something with this in the back of my mind; its useless no matter what.
  3. I can get up and try to do something with this in the back of my mind; where I want to go.

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