by Anja Uitdehaag

John F. Kennedy, Martin Luther King, Gandhi, Oprah Winfrey, Michelle Obama, just to name a few, are all recognized as having “it”.

“It” is that something special that is called “charisma”.

“The word charisma is derived from the Greek word meaning ‘gift or divine favor.’  It is often used to describe an elusive personality trait that includes an uncanny ability to lead, charm, persuade, inspire, and influence people. Charismatic people seem to be able to easily draw the attention and admiration of others.  Related terms and phrases include: grace, exuberance, equanimity, mystique, positive energy, joie de vivre, extreme charm, personal magnetism, personal appeal, electricity, and allure.  Usually many of these specific qualities must be present within a single individual for the person to be considered highly charismatic by the public and their peers.”

Charismatic people are brilliant communicators. They energize, inspire and motivate us to step forward and convert fear into challenge. They stand out because they are able to see things from another’s perspective and continually seek to find the common ground.

They do this through actions such as:

• Direct eye contact;
• Remembering personal details about the person they are speaking with e.g. use of name or enquiry after family/social matters;
• Giving their complete focus to the other person for the time they are with them;
• Reading their surroundings and being skilled at detecting the moods of the audience and
• Adjusting his or her behaviors and speech to suit the situation at hand.

As you see, a lot about being charismatic is about making the other person/people feel good by being more free and genuine socially, by being fully there, by being positive, open and confident.

No matter your personality, there are certain traits you can practice and apply to your own behavior that can possibly make you seem more magnetic, trustworthy, and influential.

Focusing on making meaningful connections with others seems a good start in developing your charisma. Making true connections with others is essential for work but also life in general. Learn to be authentic in who you are, how you think and feel. At the same time be curious. Be curious in the thoughts and feelings of others. Truly try to understand people and as a result a meaningful connection will enfold.

Remember: very few ‘charismatic’ people are naturally charismatic. Most of us cultivate it along the way.  I believe that being more charismatic is mostly about bringing out positive qualities in our selves. They are already there. You just have to practice and have the courage to make them stronger and bring them out more consistently.

Throughout this learning process, use the tips, tricks and secrets of people who are charismatic to developing and growing your own charisma!

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