Situation 8: IN CONTROL

The weekly team meeting is not going as smooth as Femsy would like it to be. Femsy stands her ground.

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A great leader:

  • Is self confident and has a strong sense of self;
  • Sets and communicates clear (behavioural) standards;
  • Makes sure that team members understand what is expected from them;
  • Manages pushback without getting emotional or frustrated;
  • Acts decisively in difficult situations.

How to best handle the situation:

Leading involves keeping your eye on the goal, setting common objectives, dealing with resistance, managing your emotions, being a role model and getting others to believe in where you’re headed. It requires a strong self-awareness and a lot of self-confidence.

Leading puts you in the limelight. Don’t let criticism prevent you from taking the lead or a stand. People will always say it should have been done differently anyway.

Learning suggestions:

  • Make sure your team members understand what is expected from them. Set and communicate clear standards;
  • Your emotional reactions might make others think that you have issues with tough leadership situations. Learn to recognize and control your emotions. Instead of immediately reacting, ask questions or invite a person to tell you more about his/her point of view;
  • Look and sound like a leader. This requires a strong voice, eye contact, self-confidence and a strong presence. A lot of leadership presence has to do with forceful presentation skills. Take a workshop that is using video taping;
  • If you know you’re right then take a stand. In case you are wrong, which happens to all great leaders sometimes, accept personal responsibility for errors, admit it and move on;
  • Tips for staying in control in meetings:
    • Send a meeting agenda in advance;
    • Nail the introduction of every topic. Be very specific by ensuring that every meeting participant knows exactly what you want to talk about and “what is in it” for him/her;
    • Allot specific amounts of time to agenda topics;
    • Manage pushback, bring people back on track and cut people off if needed;
    • Nail the closure of every topic with SMART action points, decisions and/or conclusions.
  • Leaders are readers. Interesting books which could address your specific needs are for example:
    • “Emotional Intelligence 2.0” by Travis Bradberry & Jean Graves;
    • “Power Talk” by Sarah Myers McGinty;
    • “Leadership, the Power of Emotional Intelligence” by Daniel Goleman;
    • “Act like a Leader, Think like a Leader” by Hermina Ibarra.

Femchallenge:

Leadership requires presence. Would I pick you as a leader if I met you for the first time during an office gathering? What makes you the leader?

Femcommunity tips:

We welcome your thoughts, experiences and comments on how you would deal with such a situation.

 

Read more about Co-Colours and Co-Colours Team.

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